7 Dimensions of Wellness

7 Dimensions of Wellness
7 Dimensions of Wellness

Sunday, February 22, 2015


The other day at my son's school I noticed an extra amount of kids smiling at me and greeting me.  One of my son's friends even came up and gave me a hug.

"Hey, kid's name mom", she said.  "Hey, pretty girl, " I said in return.  Pretty girl chosen because I didn't know the child's name and my go-to when I don't know someone's name is girl or lady.  However, given her age and I think it's important to speak positives to people given the chance - I decided to call her PG. 

"How's school going" I asked.  "Are you good?"   PG replied, "Yep, it's good"  She twirled her hair, "Well, I just wanted to tell you hi and let you know I love you on Snapchat.  Bye"

"Bye", I said.

Snapchat?  I asked my son later what was up with Snapchat.  "What you mean?" he said.  I told him that kids were smiling and saying hi and then PG said she loved me on Snapchat. 

Kid, "Oh, I be putting your bests on Snapchat".

Me, "My bests?"

Kid, "Yeah, like when you are dancing and rapping or when you telling me stuff.  It's nothing bad.  I mean it's not like the yelling parents on Vine.  Kids always telling me that my mom is cool and funny.  You got fans".

My bests on Snapchat.  So there are kids out there judging the whole of my brilliant parenting in 5 - 10 second vignettes.  How on earth can they get the gist of being a good human, loving your family and friends, serving God and your community in 5-10 seconds?  Especially 5-10 seconds that are instantly erased by the next 5 - 10 minutes of me in traffic twirling my own hair singing and telling my stealth filming kid, "You don't know nothing 'bout this".

Part of me was kinda weirded out.  I mean, I'm not a Snapchat fan anyway and to think there's a high school contingent out there watching my bests is kinda weird.

But while it's weird, it also made me kinda happy.  My relationship with my son is one of the most important in my life.  I love him and try to do everything I can to live that love and show him that love daily.  I fail miserably somedays.  Somedays I yell, somedays I cuss, somedays I ignore him and speak to him curtly as if he was someone in my office that pissed me off or a service employee who didn't give me the service and attention I think I deserved.  In those moments, I'm not at my best.  I'm thankful there are no social media reminders even if they are only 5-10 seconds long of how I get it wrong.  Those moments wouldn't get me any nods or smiles from teens and surely no hugs.  Most importantly they aren't my bests.  Far from it.  

As this month of love closes out, I'm humbled to consider my son's loving ode to me.  I know he loves me.  I know it even when he is ungrateful and self-absorbed and when he can't or won't give me a straight answer or when he can't take responsibility for the homework that he didn't turn in.  He loves me enough to celebrate more of my bests instead of calling me out for my worsts.  That he uses up valuable teen social media bandwidth to do so is pretty cool, too.

Lisa Coffman

Monday, February 9, 2015

Meatless Monday: Orzo

Orzo pasta. Small. Rice shaped. Perfect. This post all about Orzo. Just look at it.
Isn't it lovely? Isn't it wonderful? (Yep, I serenade my good with Stevie lyrics. judge me.) But let's talk about why I love it. 
Orzo pasta is a short cut pasta that is similar to the shape of rice. It's light and fluffy and will become a go-to pasta in your pantry. Below are 5 things I like about orzo. 
1. Orzo is versatile, I've used orzo in soups, salads, casseroles. I've used it hot and old. This little noodle can do no wrong. 
2. Orzo is fairly quick cooking. I've made a pot on the stove in about 9 minutes. I've also made a batch in the microwave, covered in 7 &1/2 minutes. 
3. Orzo is a great change out instead of rice. We eat a lot of rice in our family, so when I'm over rice, I boil up a bot of orzo instead. It's a great alternative. 
4. The small yet, full shape of orzo is perfect for little fingers. Once booked, orzo blooms quite nicely, which helps little fingers pick it up and self feed. I'm all about dishes I can make for all 3 of us, and orzo pasta helps me do the trick. 
5. Shelf stable. Like all pastas orzo is shelf stable, which means I can keep it on hand and drop it in a dish or boil some up as a side for something quick and easy. 
Quick tip recipe: Warm Orzo Salad: Boil up 1 cup of orzo according to package instructions. Drain and set aside.  Chop a handful of halved cherry tomatoes, handful of parsley and a half of a shallot. Toss together with reserved orzo, season with salt, pepper. Drizzle a little Sweet Balsamic dressing. Toss gently to combine. Serve warm and enjoy!
I hope you'll befriend Orzo. It's truly a noodle for any job.

Candace Boyd Wylie is an Indianapolis, Indiana native who believes in the power of a good meal.  She is the Recipe developer, Content creator and Recipe slanger at FoodLoveTog. FoodLoveTog is a food blog that is dedicated to sharing good eats and food for the soul. Candace is a wife, mother, daughter, sister and CWUW supporter. She can be found on the web at FoodLoveTog and at BoydWyliePhoto

Monday, February 2, 2015

Positive Thought For The Week - Taking Steps Into Your Destiny

What if I told you, you could change your life with a few steps? I won’t use the cliché “simple” because as you probably already know that if change was always simple more people would do like Nike says and “Just Do It.”
What if we all truly understood the importance’s of steps? And that steps either take us closer to where we want to be or further from where we should go?

What if we began to look at steps from a different perspective? What if you decided to make each step you take something personal? For you see when you make something personal, you give it life. What if you saw each step as your baby and what do we do with our babies we name them. So how about if each step had names like:
1.       Realization

2.       Identification

3.       Courage

4.       Strength

5.       Sacrifice

6.       Willingness

7.       Openness

8.       Faith

9.       Perseverance

10.   Wisdom

11.   Humility

12.   Revelation

If you tackle all of these steps, at once it can be overwhelming and paralyzing. So you are not overwhelmed by the entire process, what if we started by taking just one step at a time. Let’s make Step 1. REALIZATION. What does that mean? When you truly want change in your life, to me realization is the moment of absolute honesty. It is when you recognize and acknowledge that all is not well and that something needs to shift. It is the moment of self-awareness that can propel you forward or cause you to begin to tail spin where you hibernate because you can’t or won’t handle the truth.

Realization is that step that starts it all, and for some the hardest. Why? Because once you know something, no matter how hard you try, no matter how deep you bury it, no matter how far you run from it, you can never truly un-know it.  So how about you stop hiding in the shadows. Step into the light and fight past the fear. Only when you can acknowledge the things that hold you back will you give yourself the power to make the first step to change your life.

Monday, January 5, 2015


The first #MeatlessMonday of 2015! We made it! I’m glad you’re here. 
Today I’m sharing an appetizer that will appease meat-eaters and vegans alike. Roasted Cherry Tomato & Clementine Crostini. Yep. Savory. Savory. Savory. Cherry Tomatoes and Citrus. An unlikely pair. This is what happens when I have items in my fridge that I don't want to go to waste and I'm in need of a tasty snack.  I'm quite resourceful when it comes to odds and ends in the fridge. Creating this recipe was quite fun.
Enter bread, balsamic and my oven. This simple recipe will be delight your taste buds and please a crowd if you're entertaining. Roasting the veggies pulls out a sweetness that is unmatched. The tang of Balsamic adds a nice rounded touch what I'm calling "the duo of delight".  

  1. 10-15 Cherry Tomatoes Halved
  2. 12 Clementine Segments
  3. 1/3 cup Balsamic Vinegar
  4. Pinch of Salt
  5. Black Pepper
  6. 4 Tablespoons Butter
  7. Extra Virgin Olive Oil
  8. 5 Slices of Bread
  1. Preheat Oven to 350
  2. Lightly Coat a sheet pan with Extra Virgin Olive Oil
  3. Toss Tomatoes and Clementine Segments in Balsamic Vinegar and Spread on sheet pan
  4. Season with Salt & Pepper
  5. Bake for 30-35 minutes until softened
  6. While the tomatoes and clementines roast
  7. Cut out rounds of bread slices, each piece should yield two rounds
  8. Melt butter in a saucepan
  9. Toast each round in butter until lightly golden and crisp
  10. Top each crostini round with Tomato and Clementine mixture
  11. Serve warm and enjoy!

Candace Boyd Wylie is an Indianapolis, Indiana native who believes in the power of a good meal.  She is the Recipe developer, Content creator and Recipe slanger at FoodLoveTog. FoodLoveTog is a food blog that is dedicated to sharing good eats and food for the soul. Candace is a wife, mother, daughter, sister and CWUW supporter. She can be found on the web at FoodLoveTog and at BoydWyliePhoto

Sunday, January 4, 2015

The Choice.

When I sat down at the end of 2013 and created my vision book, I really didn't think I would fulfill some of the things in it. Because of my ambitious nature, I desperately wanted to believe I would and could, but the negative voices in my head said otherwise. As flipped through the pages and read the notes that I have written, I see evidence of a somewhat broken me, a person that I actually feel sorry for. However, there is also evidence of a transformation--I can see the moment I decided to make a choice to live a "positive" life. This choice was not easy, it required me to let go of unhealthy relationships, change bad habits, battle the external negative energy, and most importantly, silence the negative self talk. 

What did I learn as a result of this "choice?" I have learned from my mistakes, I've learned to celebrate my accomplishments, and I've learned how powerful the words that follow "I AM" are (thank you Clarissa Mitchell). 

This year as I created my 2015 vision book I had a different energy surrounding me, I almost felt like there was a glow around me. As a result, I did not use many pictures, I channel energy when I see words written by my hand. Although, I won't share the specifics (My granny used to say"don't tell everybody your business, all people don't have your best interest at heart...lol) my vision book contains several "I AM" statements...several. I will admit, I am a bit intimidated, but I am not afraid. 

Happy New Year!


LaWanda Martindale is a wife, mother, nurse and novice triathlete; she lives in Atlanta, GA.

Make Sweet Love - Sexuality

My professional life has been focused on the prevention of HIV in primarily women.  In this work, I've had the opportunity to talk about sexuality from all angles.  As we want people to be sexually responsible, we should encourage that they are sexually satisfied.  Historically, mens sexual desire has been the point of attention.  What a man wants, he gets sexually through consent, oppression, or force.   Men have been allowed to explore their sexual fulfillment in extreme ways. This, of course, is a level of oppression and its a social norm for many.

In my talks with women about their sexual fulfillment, I've spoken with women who have never experienced "the Big O".   Their sexual experiences were driven by whatever the man desired.  You'd think that everyone is experiencing sex in the same way - like the last porn movie with moans and repeated orgasms. We don't teach our girls they are sexual beings.  We teach them to be guarded, that their sexuality is a "gift" to be only given to someone special, and that they shouldn't be too sexually expressive.  If we remove religion from this conversation, how does this benefit our society to keep women's sexuality so controlled and policed?

Teaching sexual health and responsibility doesn't mean we should suppress sexual expression.  We need to teach that we are all sexual beings.  We have deep attractions and sexual connections with others.  We teach we must decided for ourselves what best keeps us emotionally and spiritually healthy as we decide to dive into our sexual selves. We have to stop teaching that sex is bad and stop using sexually transmitted infections as a scare tactic to keep youth from being sexually active. Being sexually healthy is being informed and being able to speak about sex in a wonderfully honest way.  Fear isn't they to create a healthy mindset to sex.

In our sexual relationships, we have to be able to talk about it.  Yes we need to talk about condoms and past partners but we also need to talk about kissing and touching and loving.  We need talk about where those kisses should land.  We need to talk about positions and fetish.  Do you like porn or not?   Talk about it.  Play with each other.  Allow yourselves to grow together not only emotionally and spiritually in your relationships but bonding sexually.  Believe me when I say that just because people are having sex, doesn't mean they are having good sex. 

Monday, December 15, 2014

Meatless Monday: Sweet Potato Pecan Bread

The Sweet Potato is one of my favorite vegetables. I love that can eat it all year long in a variety of ways.. steamed, roasted, baked in a pie, chopped in a hash for breakfast, the possibilities are endless for the sturdy vegetable. In honor of Fall, I decided to whip up this cake, instead of my usual Banana Nut Bread. I’m so glad I did.. I mirrored this recipe after my Granny’s Banana But Bread, only this one is Eggless and Milk-free. Yep, it is quite possible to bake a moist bread without eggs or milk. I dare you to try it!

Check out the recipe below.
Eggless. Milk-Free. Delightful. This almost Vegan recipe is moist, hearty and full of the flavors of Fall. This one bowl recipe is sure to please!
Total Time
1 hr 15 min
Total Time
1 hr 15 min
  1. 1 Large Sweet Potato (Cooked and Mashed) ( to yield 1 cup )
  2. 1/2 stick of Melted Butter
  3. 1/2 Cup Dark Brown Sugar
  4. 1/2 Cup White Sugar
  5. 1 Teaspoon Vanilla Extract
  6. 1/3 Cup unsweetened Applesauce
  7. 1 Teaspoon Baking Soda
  8. Pinch of Salt
  9. 1 and 1/2 Cups AP Flour
  10. 1/2 Teaspoon cinnamon
  11. 1/4 Teaspoon Nutmeg
  12. 1/3 Cup Chopped Pecans
  1. Preheat Oven to 350
  2. In a large bowl combine Mashed Sweet Potatoes, Sugars, Nutmeg, Cinnamon,& Applesauce
  3. Stir gently to combine
  4. Add Baking Soda, Salt, Melted Butter, Vanilla Extract
  5. Add flour and stir well to combine all ingredients
  6. Fold in Chopped Pecans
  7. Add mixture to a prepared loaf pan
  8. Bake on 350 for one hour or until a toothpick inserted in middle of bread comes out clean
  9. Let Cool and Serve along side your favorite milk.

Candace Boyd Wylie is an Indianapolis, Indiana native who believes in the power of a good meal.  She is the Recipe developer, Content creator and Recipe slanger at FoodLoveTog. FoodLoveTog is a food blog that is dedicated to sharing good eats and food for the soul. Candace is a wife, mother, daughter, sister and CWUW supporter. She can be found on the web at FoodLoveTog and at BoydWyliePhoto

Monday, November 3, 2014

I Tri-ed. I Succeeded...The Finish!

The Run:
I started out too fast, I ran the first mile in 11:11. I felt good, but in hindsight, I should have not used so much of my legs knowing the bike leg was full of hills. The trail was full of mud and exposed roots; the mud made my shoes slick and I ALMOST FELL…Almost. However, I PR’d my 5k time (sub 36 minutes).
What am I looking at?

T-1 (transition from run to bike)-I felt clumsy and actually forgot everything in the order I had practiced. "Do I kick off my running shoes first? No, it's the helmet. Oh forget, just get your stuff on."

The Bike:
My legs were heavy. The grass was wet. My cleats were slippery.  I had trouble clipping into my pedals. I slowed. I clipped in. I was off. The first 3 miles felt great, it was basically down hill, and then there were hills. Lot of hills. Big hills. Little hills. Long inclines. Short inclines. I walked one because I had to. No shame. Charley horse. Gulped down my "Osmo" to help with charley horse. I prayed it would go away. Chanted “Just Do You!" (thanks Natalie). As I made my way from Chapel Hill to Anneewakee, I felt strong due to lots of downhill and smaller inclines. Since I live in the area, I knew where I was and this gave me a boost of confidence. I smiled. I peddled strong. I checked my  the clock. I really wanted to finish sub 2 hours. As I turned into the park, I felt excited. I saw Tony. I saw Dorian. I smiled. I dismounted my bike.

I'm ready to ride.

T-2 (bike to swim)
Now I felt proud of this transition, maybe because taking clothes off was easier. My plan to quickly tuck my locs into the swim cap was flawless. I forgot to take off my race belt, but realized it before I made it into the pool area. Feet first into the pool. I’m tired. I breast stroke (my version, because I don't know how to breast stroke...lol) to the first turn, pause at the wall. I cuss. Charley horse is back. I rub my calf and begin my freestyle. I prayed that Charley would go away. He did. Praise God. Turn 3, I actually felt good. I was tired so I started breathing on one side. I hear Tony Brown telling to take it slow. I tried. I wanted to be done. I really don't remember much else until I finally make it to the last lane. I feel myself smiling and push off the wall. I’m saying to myself, you are a triathlete. You did that. I'm crying in the pool. This last 25 meters, I'm sure I was swimming like...like something...lol 

"Just keep swimming."-Dory

The Finish:
I felt heavy getting out of the pool. I cross the timing mat to cheers from everyone who came to support me. I’m beyond happy. I cry some more. I see a camera and straighten up for a picture, I have a nice finish photo. I now see new faces…Ay Jay and Clarissa came to support me too?!?!! I am in shock that people I never expected to see felt I was worth their Sunday morning.
I am feeling extremely proud, so blessed, and truly humbled to have so many folks supporting me on my journey; in person and virtually. Natalie Reed, you were in my head the entire time, especially when I thought I was last. I did what you said “Just do you!” 

I am looking forward to next season, longer distances, and new victories. I have a lot of work to do in all three sports, but with my determination, support from family and friends, and the experience of my coach I can…and will do it.
Oh, guess what y’all? I am a TRIATHLETE.

1:56:21 the time it took me to finish, I BEAT MY GOAL!!!